The Shape Of a Mother

Self Portrait of Motherhood
Self Portrait of Motherhood

“Jeez !! You don’t look 23 girl !!  Do something about those extra kilos and get back into shape asap!!” , she exclaimed . That day I stood in front of the mirror, cursed myself and wished I could change things. It was not just her, but several others who commented on my postpartum body.

I knew I looked not the same anymore. I gained a lot of weight, went out of shape and got stretch marks on  all places one could ever imagine.

There was this immense joy of motherhood and the pleasure of seeing your baby smile on one side (about which I could now go on and on, maybe in another blog post.  🙂 lets see). But the occassional comments on my body, not to mention the drastic hormonal transitions and emotional imbalances started making life hell for me. Inspite of all the support and love from my loved ones, I grew more and more insecure about myself, especially my body.

But as time flew, I gradually learnt to like my body with all its flaws. I realised IT’S OK to have those extra kilos and that belly hang.  Not everybody looks like that celebrity mom who got back into shape two days post delivery. And i learnt to love  my body that gave me my little one whom I now love the most. I realised my body is different now, but only stronger than ever.

Now, I stand infront of the mirror only to smile at myself and feel content about every single thing in me. Yes, I got extra skin hanging around my belly, my breasts may be saggy, I got stretchmarks that show too much. But I embrace it all. Because  THIS IS THE SHAPE OF A MOTHER. This is what a mother looks like. This is the remnant of a glorious journey that one should be thankful and happy about.

Now when someone comments on my tummy stretchmarks, I reply with all the pride,  “that’s what makes me a badass tigress mom” 🙂

PS. Dedicated to all my fellow moms. Never ever feel bad. You are beautiful. You are blessed. Now smile for me. You deserve to be the happiest.

29 thoughts on “The Shape Of a Mother”

  1. Good one Anju.. could relate to your post very much..I am sure a lotta moms go through this. I have always wondered how people could be so insensitive and pass comments like this.. anyway we are living in a world filled with such people so we gotta deal with mantra with such people is try and ignore which is difficult but not impossible..

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    1. Exactly.. dealing with such comments was definitely not easy..These people knowingly or unknowingly end up making us feel bad about ourselves.. but now that I have overcome such insecurities, I wanted to let other moms know that it’s not impossible for them either, as you said 🙂


  2. Great text! 🙂 I had my little dumpling at the age of 22. Can relate a lot, even though I have no weight gain. But the stretch marks are there, and other revealing marks… the body changes, it is true. Funnily, I had a moment of self-doubt followed by a realization: I had always been insecure about my naked body, even before the pregnancy. During delivery however, people saw me in the rawest, most “naked” state I could be. And I survived. It freed me. I finally do not feel awkward anymore when being naked. Not despite my stretch marks, but thanks to all the mental and physical marks that having a baby leaves on a woman’s body. And it’s always nice to see that people have made similar experiences.

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